I have heard people say – Nobody loves me; I wish somebody loves me the way he loves her – so often that I have lost count of it. I am pretty sure it is magical to be in LOVE. But what about your family, your friends, your wellwishers (the genuine ones) ? Then you say – yeah okay, but that’s different. Ofcourse it’s different !
You don’t need a ‘lover’ to validate your living. I have been involved in friendships that are more profound than most relationships: Friendships where I found myself while I was lost; Friendships so much more soothing than love. Sometimes it is less glamorous and less passionate, but it’s deeper and kind of wiser. I have no clue as to when love became synonymous with relationships and when relationship became all about lovers.
As wonderful as romance is, learning from experiences around me, a ‘relationship’ won’t always make you happy. I have seen people give up on their dreams to be with their soulmate. If someone doesn’t compliment your life in a way that makes it better to not be single, it’s not worthwhile. Everyone around you worked hard enough on you to just give up on your dreams.
Also, Why should relationships mean settling down ? Someone who won’t let life escape you, who’ll challenge you and drive you towards your dreams. Someone to get spontaneous with in this crazy world. Relationship with a right person isn’t a restriction, it’s a release. Stop romanticising people who hurt you. If you stay down even when a person disrespects you, you aren’t being loyal, you are being weak.
It is wonderful to love and be loved. It is also wonderful to have friends and family who may not kiss you or hold you through the night but will shield you through the tough times. They may not give you roses on Valentine’s day but will shower you with love throughout the year. It is great to doll up and stop for ice cream with your girls. It is even better to go on trips with buddies and create memories which the camera cannot capture.
~We have made everything about “the one”. Maybe “the one” is just you, loving yourself, having fun. Maybe instead of looking for the other halves, we should be piecing ourselves together. If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy taken. Happiness comes from within. Maybe I wasn’t born unfinished. I think I am the one for myself.
Some people come into your life and you just know; You won’t be able to replace them if they left. To my people – Gazal, Kaushal, Akash, Anjali, Anjana, Riya, Khushal.