To the woman tempered with a spine of steel

As I grew up, I realised my mom is the best friend I ever had. The fact that I stay away from home, makes me feel that it is not just physical distance we have in between.

Giving an excuse that you had a test or were out with friends, won’t make moms, who live far off from their children, feel better. Some days, she just wants you to spend time with her, talk to her, help her, laugh with her, share warm moments.

However, everyone isn’t as lucky. I am not, considering the fact that I am in a different city. I have seen so many people talk to their moms once or twice a week here. Some like me call her up every night after dinner. There are days when I feel that the conversation with my mother are becoming transactional. Instead of communicating my thoughts to her, I end up replying to the given set of questions.

It disheartens me to see people shout at their moms, ask her to leave the room, get infuriated for making plain meals, whine about keeping things elsewhere. We are talking about a woman who kept us in her womb for 9 months, tolerated our kicks when ‘all wasn’t well’, cleaned us, fought with our dad for us, even lied to him. We have barely done anything in return.
My friend’s mother has just sent me a food packet for my dinner. Is it just the food that makes me homesick? I guess it is. Her plain roti with pickle was appetizing.


My mother tells me she will always be my mother even when I have grandchildren, how time will change but the fact will not. She thinks that my friends are more important to me. I want to tell her sometimes that she is unforgettable, irreplaceable, a silver lining of hope, a melody of good times, a comrade of bad ones. But how do I explain this? I have nothing to say. It’s funny how she strikes my mind at all odd times throughout the day: I saw a mother with her child this morning, patting his back. These little things I could relate to. Delivering grace, encouragement, and a listening ear, Always on standby for a well needed hug. The one who melts my heart, peaks my curiosity, and challenges me to grow.

To people who take her for granted, please do not talk to her in a rush, or disconnect the call saying you are busy while you actually have your partners on hold. Do not miss out on chances to be with her. Do not shout at her when one thing goes wrong. Do not save her number with the names ‘headquarters’, ‘hitler’, ‘birthgiver.’
Anyway, I have to call up ‘mumma:)’ (this is how I have saved her number) right now.

-To the woman tempered with a spine of steel.


40 thoughts on “To the woman tempered with a spine of steel

  1. Its a really nice article.. πŸ™‚ Not everyone can express their feelings like you have done.. Good job. πŸ™‚


  2. Dis is not fair Dr..Uh made me nostalgic…I m missing “her” more…nyway on a serious note uh expressed our feelings in the best way…


  3. V. Well expressed write up.. I was completely overwhelmed… You are an awesome writer.. Keep ur spirits high nd pen ur thoughts.. Whatever comes to ur mind… Keep writing..!


  4. harshita..!
    i have been always reading your post on facebook.!
    i find you amazing
    and this one is too amazing
    keep up the same way!!!
    good luck


  5. Great piece.

    I disagree with one point though. We need not be too hard on ourselves that sometimes we require a shutdown and not interact a lot. This is when the interaction becomes too “transactional” as you call it. Of course, its necessary to mindful of such moments and make sure it doesn’t happen too regularly specially with the ones we love. But to be totally “on” all the time is too much of an ask in my opinion.

    Well written article otherwise. It’s clear you love your mom πŸ™‚


    1. Precisely my point. I wanted to say that even though we stay miles apart, we are sometimes reluctant to share even with our mom. In my case, I do not want to bother her. This is why I feel there is more than physical distance between us. Anyway, Thank You so much. And I do πŸ™‚


  6. Great Work!!
    Choice of words and the expression of feeling is truely too good.
    Keep up the Keep going ahead πŸ˜‰ πŸ™‚


  7. Now this is something amazing…You have just expressed the feelings of students like us who stay away from home😊 Looking forward for the new post 😊


  8. Hey Harshita. Very well expressed. Your mom must be proud. Looking forward to reading more from u. Loved this one. πŸ™‚


  9. Harshita it’s really a perfect article for the youth of our age ..You have touched the reality of every mother who crave to talk her children.But never get a clear response from their side!! Well written Harshita it actually brought me into tear!!


  10. And Finally Here comes the first Article of Yours!!
    M speechless as always😢.. Whenever I read anything written by you!πŸ™Œ
    Words are less to describe my emotions πŸ˜‹πŸ˜
    All I can say is You are a Amazing Writer! Great Thoughts putting all the points precisely!! πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜€
    Bravo Harshita!!! πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚


  11. This is just wow Harshu 😘 Your first article and its just amazing😍
    Great work..
    Waiting for the next one😁


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